Whether we are extrovert or introvert there are times that
we have no mood to socialize with other people but we are in the area of
social-situation where we are forced to be a Socialite. I think it’s normal
when we feel boring in a certain condition! Base on my experience and some
articles that I found in this borderless world I’d like to sum up the reason “Why
you might not in the mood to hit up a social event, and deal with them
accordingly.”
You're Tired and Don't Feel Up to It
From my own perspective, "being tired and not feeling
up to it" are the two most commons reasons why I don't like to go out—and
it's easily the most common thing I hear from friends. Sometimes you don't have
a choice though, and you have to get out and socialize regardless.
In this case, the trick is in forcing yourself to wake up a
little in hopes that you'll be up to socialize when you're awake. As ridiculous
as it sounds, a short bout of exercise is a simple way to get a little energy,
and a quick walk around the block might restore your energy.
Caffeine, of course, does the trick, but has its share
of downsides. If you don't want to resort to caffeine, it might be best to hit
your bodies other fuel source: food. As WebMD points out, certain complex
carbs found in whole-grain foods are a great way to get a quick energy boost
when you need it. Oftentimes, you just need to get a little extra fuel in your
system and you'll be good to walk into any social situation with your head high
and your brain tuned for conversation.
There Will Be People
There You Don't Like
So,
your main cause for concern is that your arch-enemy is going to be there. It's
okay, we've all been there, and it's a perfectly reasonable excuse not to go
somewhere. But you don't have to let it stop you being sociable.
The easiest way around this is to try and time your entrance
or exit so you don't actually run into the people you don't like, but that's
not always a possibility. Sometimes you have to face up to them.
In most cases, running into someone at a social function who
you don't like is no different than working with someone you don't like. You
can deal with the situation the same way. As we've talked about before, you
might have to dig deep and figure out why you don't like a person. Perhaps,
once you figure out the why, you can move on and have a perfectly good
time.
Of course, that's not always the case. Sometimes you just
don't like people. If it's a big problem, it might be time to step up and tell
someone you don't like them. It's not an easy task, and half the battle is
preparing yourself to deal with the conversation. Just remember, we all have
people in our lives we don't like—before you go confronting someone ask
yourself, "What's my objective in telling someone I don't like them?"
If you don't have a good reason, it's probably best to just avoid them.
You Hate Small Talk
The majority of people out there don't like small talk, but
we all do it. Thankfully, you have a ton of tactics to make small talk
bearable.
One of the best ways to deal with small talk is to turn it
into an actual conversation. You can do this pretty easily by mentioning
small details until something sticks, or even just by learning the right
questions to ask. If you're struggling to think of questions question, the FORD
technique (family, occupation, recreation, dreams) is a simple way to come
up with interesting topics.
Once you find that question, it's time to listen. One thing
I've learned over the years from being horribly awkward at small talk is that
people love to talk about themselves, and the more you allow them to
do so, the more they'll like you. The trick, in this case, is all about finding
that middle ground where you're both interested in something, and then just letting
them talk about it while listening intently. Not only do you walk away with a
whole new perspective of the world, you also make a new friend who you won't
have to have small talk with anymore.
You're Stressed Out or Preoccupied with
Something Else
Stress can wreck havoc on your body, and if you're stressed,
going out and socializing is likely the last thing you want to do.
The problem is that dealing with stress depends a lot on
where it's coming from. The best ways to deal with acute stress are to relax,
give yourself some time, and talk it out with those around you. If you're
stressed about the social obligation itself, it's not a bad idea to change
your expectations, try and stop stress before it starts, and remember that sometimes
the best way to deal with it is to do something unusual. Perhaps being sociable
is exactly what you need. Some people just plain don't like socializing,
and that's totally fine. But on those occasions when you're forced out (or you
force yourself out), knowing the reasons why you don't want to socialize, and
tackling them ahead of time, can help make the experience much more enjoyable.
Regards,
